How to be Flawsome?

To be 'flawsome' we must first have a clear understanding of what the word actually stands for. If you don't already know what it is, let me give you a heads up. The term 'Flawsome' can be used for an individual who acknowledges and embraces his/her 'flaws' and knows he/she is 'awesome' anyway! So, you see the connection now, huh? Flawed + Awesome = Flawsome. It's all about being endlessly flawed and completely chilled out about it instead of mopping around with a sullen face and zero self esteem. Cool, huh?

It nearly seems impossible nowadays to actually be Flawsome. Like they say, "better said than done". It doesn't take a penny to declare "Yo guys! I don't give a shit about my failures, imperfections, drawbacks and weaknesses. I'm glad to be me! I don't care what anybody else thinks of me." But do we really mean it? Ask yourself.

Everyday we're reminded of how flawed we are. And somehow flaws have become more physical and external than internal. A look in a mirror is all that it takes to be convinced that we're beyond imperfect. The sources that remind us time and again of how flawed we are, are so endless! You switch on the T.V, you come across commercials that glorify skinniness and light skin tones, perfect hair and teeth, spotless faces and underarms, and then you feel like you're dead for the rest of the day. You flip through the airbrushed pages of a fashion magazine, and you hit the stumps. Even if you do not hit the stumps right away, you become cranky and gloomy and shout at people for no reason, listen to emo songs and end up tearing a bunch of pages from your gratitude journal or deleting five of some really beautiful selfies from your Instagram account, because you believe they aren't perfect. The skinny model in the fashion magazine is what defines perfection for you now. Those artificially glossed over butts are the only kind of butts that you want to have.

Keep the physical aside, you compare yourselves to your classmates or fellow associates, you look at their achievements, their activities, their 'oh-so-happening' lives, their perfect parents and perfect grades and perfect relationships and never-empty purses and feel wretched. A feeling of inferiority overwhelms you. And eventually you walk into depression, constantly feeling you aren't good enough, that you do not deserve the best.

So, what can you do to stop feeling this way?

1. Change what can be changed.

I am not going to give a sermon on how we should be perfectly content even if we weigh 90 kgs. That's not what being Flawsome essentially means. If you weigh 90 kgs and you're sure it's not a medical condition that's responsible for your being overweight, it's high time you should get your lazy ass moving, simply because you aren't fit and being overweight is not healthy. Change what can be changed. Cut down on your calorie intake. Watch what you eat. Don't binge on fast food. Exercise. Exercise. Exercise. If you're dissatisfied with your grades, then DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT, for God's sake! Cut off from all distractions, change your study habits, get the help of a friend or a teacher chalk out a study schedule and stick to it. Don't be a procrastinator. Remember, good things in life never come easy.

2. Accept what cannot be changed.

Now if you're dissatisfied with the color of your skin, the sound of your voice, or the way your hair curls, or the way you stammer while you speak, it's high time you realise that there are things that cannot be changed. You can straighten your hair if you don't like your curls, but there are plenty of risks involved. Moreover, these things aren't permanent and they cost a fortune, you gotta keep going to the salon for maintainence. Aaargh! You cannot change the colour of your skin or the sound of your voice. Unless of course you are so desperate that you want to opt for melanin treatments and multiple surgeries. But why? Have you asked yourself why you want to change them? Just because the guy/girl you're crushing on doesn't like them that way. Really? Is he/she really worth it if he/she cannot accept you for the way you are?

3. Discover your calling.

We all have that one thing that we can do best. Find that out and give your all to it! If you can sketch/paint, improve on it. If you can sing, go out there and grab the mike. If you can dance, don't just let the four walls of your room be your audience. If you're a bookworm, read, read, read. Be a smartass intellectual! Reach new levels of excellence. If you like to play video games, and that's all you're good at, you still have hope! Look at PewDiePie! Haven't heard of him? GOOGLE, RIGHT NOW! He dropped out of college to play video games, showcased his talent on YouTube and today he's the greatest YouTuber alive with over 66M subscribers, living a lavish life and earning in millions! So, discover your calling and give it your all.

4. Be confident and make yourself a priority.

You are perfect just the way you are! You are unique. For once, stop trying to change yourself for others and learn to be in love with who you are. Be flawed. Be proud to be flawed. Your flaws are a part of who you are so show them off! Own them! Be bold! Be you! Remember one thing, confidence is the sexiest accessory you can ever own. Walk with pride, with your head held high. Smile. Not the goofy smile. Not the nervous smile. The confident smile. That smile with a little touch of mystery that will make others wonder what you're hiding in that head of yours. Remember to breathe. Nobody is perfect. Nobody is content with what they have. They all have battles that they're fighting every day. The ones who look perfect are simply good at keeping it all inside.

5. Remember who you are.

Don't lose yourself in a mindless quest for perfection. Remember who you are, and what you want to become. You are important. You are an individual. And you were not born to please other people's eyes or carve your identity based on their preferences. You were born to be you. You were born to live your life the way you want to. You have your own set of values and beliefs which you should not forsake for fitting into silly stereotypes. You are beautiful, just the way you are. Don't let anyone tell you that you aren't worth it. You are worth every bit of it. Believe in yourself. Have faith. Be the best version of yourself.

Cause if not you, who?
Cause if not now, when?

Change what you can change. Everything else will fall in place. Be flawed. Be awesome! Be wonderfully Flawsome!
And remember, you are not alone.