What we should 'not' do when we are in love.

So, I got this "now-flawsome" friend who had once messed up big time in her relationship! And she'll be my guinea pig for this blog. Umm... hehe? We had this heart-to-heart discussion after she broke up with her "perfect" guy and I'm just gonna repeat everything she said to me amidst tears and chuckles, everything she thinks she did wrong right from the very start. I ain't gonna take her name of course. But let's just call her Kim. Shall we?

Before you make your wild assumptions, let me be clear about a few things. She ain't anything like Kim Kardashian. And I'm using her as my guinea pig solely because she personally asked me to share her story with as many people as I can, so that they don't make the same mistakes. You got an Ancient Mariner kinda vibe there, huh? But no. She didn't kill any albatross. In fact, she "was" the albatross in this situation. No, I'm afraid, she wasn't. Let me rephrase it. She was a Swan. Bella Swan, to be more apt. Who had mistaken an ordinary guy for Edward Cullen.

Now this is what she's got to say about her BIG mistake.

When you are in a relationship, DON'T:

1. Forget the things that had always made you happy before you got into the relationship.

Very often, we tend to put all our ambitions on the backseat when we are in love. We are so wrapped up in the thoughts of our beloved that we miss out on the more important things in life. We give up on many a golden opportunity to spend more time with them. And by more time, I mean "every moment" of our existence that we can afford after we're done with work, studying for exams, and just basically all the extremely necessary things that we got to do everyday no matter what. Kim used to be a great poet before she signed up for a perfect three-year writers' block the day she signed in to a new relationship. Well, not technically that very day. But you can say, a few months later. It's was all flowery at first, she wrote him long, long, very long love poems. Made him cute cards and stuff. He used to appreciate her efforts initially, and go "wow-baby-that's-amazing!" and "you-got-magic-in your-hand" sorta thing but then he kind of ran out of admiration having used up pretty much every bit of it. And then one fine day, she too just ran out of all her amazing ideas. She ran out of lines. She didn't even have the patience to complete reading a book. She didn't think she was cut out for writing or reading or anything for that matter. She gave up! The same girl who used to devour a book a day was now only willing to talk to her bae 24×7. Unfortunately he grew tired of it, like one grows tired of every good thing in the world when it's available in excess. Now she couldn't even write, neither was her bae willing to spend every moment of "his" existence with her. Cause let's be honest, who does that? (except for Edward Cullen) *sighs*. She had read too much of Twilight in her teenage years and that's when she had actually effed up.

2. Say 'goodbye' to your friends.

Kim used to be a really lonely sort of person right since primary school. She made friends but never really connected with them on any deeper level. They were just there in her life, up for a good time. She was always waiting for that one guy who she would meet someday and there would be a spark immediately and everything would start making sense. She was waiting for her black and white world to acquire colour when she'd meet him. Filmy, huh? I remember how she'd never be invited to any of the parties or hangouts while we were still in school. One day I saw her crying about this during lunchtime and I remember what she had said to me, "It doesn't matter they didn't invite me. I can't participate in their discussions anyway. I never fit in. But it won't matter when I find him. These stupid things won't matter at all. And I'm ready to wait for that day." But later, during the last years of school she did make a few friends with whom she hung out. She looked happier. But when five years later she hooked up with this guy, it was really sort of casual at first until she started to try and connect with him emotionally like she always wanted to do. And that's when she gave up on all her old friends including me. She didn't even try to keep in touch. This new guy had become the be all and end all of her existence. She had clearly taken the whole 'Edward Cullen' thing too seriously. And she had to pay for it. Because she didn't really find anybody to fall back on when Edward Cullen started to behave like Nick Dunne. (Don't know who he is? He's that asshole from 'Gone Girl'. Does that ring a bell?)

3. Be ready to slave over them all the time.

Bella really didn't have to study much, all with Alice's visions and Edward's mind reading abilities. Plus, she had no future to worry about. Forever was given to her in a platter with eternal Youth and Beauty and Perfection as complimentary items. On top of that, the Cullens were filthy rich, they never had to make both ends meet. So, basically, Stephanie had taken care of making everything extremely convenient for them. Wish God were half as kind with us, eh? What I'm trying to say is, with everything being so convenient, Bella and Edward had nothing much to do. They could slave over each other as much as they wanted to. But newsflash! Reality is hardly as perfect. Here, we gotta go to work! We gotta get our asses moving if we want to live. We gotta be strong and hard-working. We gotta study cause we can neither see the future nor read minds. Nothing is provided in a platter. This is what Kim couldn't accept. She dwelt on these ideas, and being privileged, she didn't have to worry about making both ends meet either. She slaved over her guy day in and day out and he sort of started taking her for granted. He knew she would always be available, to receive his calls at the first ring and reply to his texts in five seconds. And that sort of ruined things for Kim because now her guy had started viewing her as a commonplace, everyday thing. He wasn't Edward Cullen of course. And Stephanie doesn't give us a picture of what happens after Breaking Dawn Part 2. I'm sure Edward and Bella have both gotten bored of each other's company by now.

Oh shit, this blog's getting a bit too lengthy. But the points need explanation. So, that's all for today. I will continue with this blog, and will try to upload the second part of it as soon as possible. There are plenty of 'Don't's that I haven't yet covered. That I'll do in my next blog. So, stay tuned for more. And don't forget to let me know what you think right down in the comment section below. You don't necessarily need to be a Blogger user to comment. Feel free to express your opinions.

Sayonara (for today)!